Wednesday, February 17, 2010

The Hardest Update

Genealogists get so excited over things that "normal" people don't: An obituary. A death certificate. A tombstone. We can be an odd bunch.

We also get excited over the additions we get to make to our genealogy databases because of information we find in an obituary. On a death certificate, or on a tombstone. We do the genealogical happy dance. We post a status update on Facebook. We tweet. it's all good.

Except when it's not.  Yesterday I had to make the most difficult change to my genealogy database that I ever had to make.

 
 
 

Dennis Joseph McHugh
17 Jan 1937 - 15 Feb 2010
Pictured in 1985 with Regina (Jean)(O'Rourke) McHugh
18 Jan 1938-13 Nov 1988
I Love You, Mom and Dad.

32 comments:

Becky Jamison said...

I am SO SORRY, Colleen! This is a wonderful tribute to your dad, but I truly am very sorry.

Elyse said...

Oh Colleen - I am so sorry for your loss. This is such a beautiful tribute to your dad but I so wish that you didn't have to write it.

I'll be praying for you and your family during this difficult time of loss.

Thomas MacEntee said...

Colleen

You are in my thoughts and prayers - you've given us a wonderful tribute to your father.

Let me know if you need anything - lots of your genealogy blogging family are here to help you out.

Terri O'Connell said...

Colllen, I am so sorry for the loss of you father. I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficulty time.

Miriam said...

Oh, how very, very sad. (((Hugs))) to you, Colleen.

Alana said...

Colleen,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences. My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

webduck said...

I remember the days when I had to enter that sad information for my parents too. It was almost unreal. I know how you are feeling and I hope that over time your hurt will ease and you will be left with just the good memories of your dad. Love and hugs, Carol

Kathryn Doyle said...

Colleen,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. May his memory be eternal.

Myrt said...

Thank-you for sharing your photo gallery of your dad. in the last pic with your mom they looked as happy as on their wedding day.

Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Cheryl Fleming Palmer said...

Deepest condolences on your loss. I know how difficult it is to enter information such as this. Thank you for sharing your photos, they are wonderful! Remember everything that makes his legacy. Hugs to you and your family.

Jessica's thoughts said...

I'm so sorry, Colleen. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Sheri said...

Oh Colleen,

I am so sad to hear about your father. I am sending you my prayers and big hugs. If there is anything you need or anything I can do for you, please let me know.

Leah Kleylein said...

Colleen, I am so sorry to hear that your father passed. You have my deepest condolences. I think you said in your post what we all feel. I waited several years before I would put my uncle's death date into my database, because I didn't want it to be "real". Again, I am so sorry.

Jasia said...

God bless you and may your pain be brief and your sorrow bearable. You have my deepest sympathy. I hope you will be comforted by happy memories of him in the years to come.

Carol said...

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Hugs from the world of GeneaBloggers and friends.

Lisa Louise Cooke said...

What a wonderful tribute to your dad. Sending hugs your way!

S. Lincecum said...

You have my deepest sympathies, thoughts, and prayers.

Amy Urman said...

Colleen, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You did a wonderful job sharing your father with us. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

Mary said...
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Mary said...

Colleen,
Prayers of peace and comfort coming your way. Great Tribute to your Dad.

Terry Thornton said...

Colleen, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your tribute to your dad was so touching and so full of love. I know you will miss him dreadfully.

Terry Thornton
Fulton, Mississippi

Amy Coffin, MLIS said...

Colleen, I am so sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. You are in my thoughts.

Greta Koehl said...

So very sorry to hear this news. He obviously leaves behind a strong legacy of love. Eternal memory.

Greta Koehl said...

So very sorry to hear this news. He obviously leaves behind a strong legacy of love. Eternal memory.

Joan Miller said...

So very sorry to hear of your loss.

GrannyPam said...

I think losing my mom was the single most difficult event of my life. I am sad every time I hear someone's parent died. God bless.

Lisa said...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Colleen.

Donna and Joe said...

What a nice tribute post to your Dad...such an important part of your family tree and such a sad loss. Joe and I have been thinking of you and you're in our prayers.

Cindy said...

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I lost my father on Dec 21 and I sat at my PC for a long time staring at my tree file before I could enter the date. You are right, it is the hardest update. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. May he rest in peace.

Colleen said...

Thank you all for your kind words, thoughts and prayers. My boss told me "It's very different when your second parent dies" and she was right. It's a very different feel.

Apple said...

I am very sorry for your loss.

Sharon said...

My sympathy's to you and yours during this difficult time. You made a very lovely tribute.

Sharon